Archive for December, 2008

Behki, Behki…..

Oh-la-la, that’s Aamir Khan for me. Yes, even at 43, he does not need to do a John Abraham la Dostana to make my heart skip a beat. He is suave, sassy and oh so droolicious!!!


I watched Ghajini late last night. My jaw dropped everytime the actor was on screen and am sure the floor below my feet was all wet, so much was the drooling. Serve me Aamir any day and I can die peacefully without having anymore desserts.


Aamir as the love-struck corporate honcho Sanjay Singhania oozes charisma that would want you to snuggle up to him. To say he is an actor par excellence is an understatement. He is THE actor cum star who gives us impressive performances movie after movie.


Ghajini is an out and out Bollywood masala flick, something which we have stopped expecting from Aamir Khan. But with Ghajini he has just proved that what SRK or Akshay can do, he can do even better. Show me a movie where the actor has done overacting and I will show you a ‘Badshah Khan’ who can act.


I don’t know why we compare, but the repeated “I am the best” rhetoric makes me wonder why do you have to shout your lungs out to prove you are best. Just act, guys…. Don’t shout.


Aamir wins hands down as the best star actor in modern cinema. Here raising a toast to this wonderful actor who makes me fall in love with him in Ghajini, once again. Sorry husb but infidelity is accepted in this case. Kya karein, Dil Hain Ki Manta Nahin!!!!!


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Marriage: Surviving, did you say?

Yeah, that’s what many say.

A colleague of mine recently asked: “Is marriage worth it?” This 28-year-old woman is “beyond marriageable age” by our societal standards. She faces the pressure of getting married from all quarters. Though she does want to get married but “where are the good men?” is her common refrain.

 Well I gave her my two cents regarding marriage. Yes marriage is not anymore about digging into a blueberry cheesecake at Big Chill’s and shopping at Anokhi. Marriage is no longer about long drives on NH 8 or landing at a multiplex every Friday. Marriage is also not about gifting ipods, coll cell phones or hitting the latest discs. These do not go amiss when you get married but they do take a backseat as more pressing issues introduces itself to you.


1.   Bills, bills, and more bills. They become important once you are married. You have to curtail them, keep a track of your expenses and ensure that the late fee is no longer cut.

2.   Maid and household chores. Managing your home is fun but not the haggling with the maid over an unclean utensil.

3.   Relatives. They suddenly resurface and expect you to pay heed to social obligations with outmost sincerity.

4.   Off days mean you spend time with the family.

5.   Girlie nights and trips is a luxury that you yearn for.

 So, I told this colleague how relationships change once you get married. According to me marriage is a beautiful relationship which brings forth all aspect of your personality. It allows you to identify your potential. The boat may rock but marriage is surely rocking!


As Paul Tournier rightly put it, “That is what marriage really means: helping one another to reach the full status of being persons, responsible and autonomous beings who do not run away from life.”



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For the past two days I have been mentally jotting down my Miss Litlle Sunshine’s achievements at 19 months. My bundle of joy do give me endless reason to shout at her but her sweet nothings leave me speechless. I am left choked at times with her pure love and adulation for me. The way she clings to me and rests her head on my shoulder relieves me of all the shoulder aches.


Her milestones:


  1. She is now completely potty trained as far as the shit business is concerned. She is disciplined and does the business in morning and night, right after having her bottle of milk. In between when the need arises she tells us she needs to do potty and would patiently till I take her to the toilet. Yes, she has started using the toilet for the big business. But as far as peeing is concerned she still has no control over her bowel. L

  2. She has become more obedient. She is less naughty and now has almost given some respite to her bratty side. Though the demonic side do resurface yet the intensity and incidences are too less and few.

  3. She identifies different weather conditions. She knows a steamy cup of tea is hot and an ice cream is ice-cold. She can tell me when she is feeling warm so that one pullover can be taken out and also when its too cold for her to wear socks.

  4. She has added ji to everyone’s name— so its mammaji, papaji, dadaji, auntiji for now. So mush so that she calls her younger cousin nishthaji. She has surely gone overboard with the ‘ji’ factor.

  5. She can sing ABCD lyrically though she is naughty and wont go beyond mid way and keeps saying “aiyo, aiyo”. Poems too have been started.

  6. Sentences have become longer and completely comprehensible. She understands everything that we say— in English, Hindi and Malyalam.

  7. She is becoming a TV addict. Has her few favourite ads and serials. It’s not a milestone, I guess. Reason to worry rather.

  8. She can eat spicy food to a certain extent. Chocolate too has been tasted by the diva. She is comfy with both but salty over sweet is what she prefers as of now.

  9. Tries to Read books. Check for figures and generally ask us where a particular thing is.

  10. Her favourite game is peek-a-boo where she covers her  eyes with her hands and will ask “S kahaan hai, S kahaan hai”?


  1. Her facial expressions can win her a National Award, hands down. She uses her eyes to her advantage and will break into a smile if she senses that you are upset with her. She will give you a hug and plant a kiss firmly on your cheek.


  1. She loves to go to the park or take a ride at her swing at home.


  1. She sleeps on her own, no need for a lullaby or rock and rollicking. Would put her bum on my face, rotate 360 degree, push herself to one corner, tries to scare herself by making funny noises by patting on the bedside and says “chowkidar”. Then she will make a face as she’s scared and would eventually sleep.


Targets to achieve


  1. Train her to control her bowel movements so as to inform us before peeing. Since I don’t use a diaper, except at night, she spoils at least 7 pair of socks and an equal number of pyjamas a day.
  2. Teach her colours and shapes. How does one do that……especially when one is telling the little one names of things at present?
  3. Introduce eggs and chicken in her diet. Had introduced eggs when she was one and she developed an allergic outburst.
  4. Curb co-sleeping. She had started sleeping in her cot but come winters and she wants to snuggle besides me. Though, I too love the warmth of her breath under my skin, I am worried if she will become a habitual co-sleeper.
  5. Make her go beyond “aiyo” while teaching alphabets.





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Of lipsticks and dogs

There are politicians and then there are more politicians. They all suffer from the foot in the mouth disease. The Mumbai terror attack has just brought forth many of them in the limelight, all for the wrong reasons. First the ex deputy CM of Maharashtra says that “such small incidents do happen in big cities. This is no matter of intelligence failure”. Hallellujah!!!! God save me, I just want to ask what would a big disaster have meant for him?

Then there was the ex-CM of Maharashtra who promoted terror tourism by inviting his filmstar son and a director while going to Taj to check the carnage. Wow!!! Maybe the director would now cast his son as an NSG commando or something in his next movie that may be on the terror strikes. The CM, sorry ex-CM, had the audacity to say that he hadn’t taken any terrorists along. Thanks, Mr Deshmukh for showing this consideration.

Then we have our Kerala CM who went to visit Major Sandeep Unnikrishnan’s house to offer condolences. He was shown the door by the upset father and the poor CM couldn’t digest it. The CM, Achuttanthan went on record to say that had it not been for Major Unnikraishnan, not even a dog would have glanced at their house. Grow up man, only a dog can comment like this.

The latest is BJP vice President Mukhtar ‘some’ Naqvi saying that women who protest on streets wearing lipstick and powders are influenced by the West. Wow, at least they are the way they are, not hypocrites like you who is a black sheep dressed in white. naqvi, does your wife remove lipstick to seem real when she is upset? Well, we don’t do that for we are not acting.

I just have one question for these politicians. How many of you send your sons and daughters to join the armed forces or join an NGO for social causes? Speak only when you understand what suffering is…………..till then silence should be your best weapon.

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